Mindset of a Survivor: An Inner and Outer Look at Being Prepared

What keeps you up at night? Do you worry about losing loved ones…the lifestyle you’ve created…or the future you’ve planned for? Such concern is universal. We are all at risk for a sudden turn of events that will drastically change our lives. What if you can learn the life skills that protect you when these events occur? Imagine acquiring the skills that prepare you to survive and recover from negative situations. Imagine being more successful and resilient. What if these skills can also empower you to thrive, get your personal message out and make an impact on the world? Join us on a teleseminar to learn about the 6 core areas where you can change how well you will bounce back from a crisis. Event Title: “Mindset of a Survivor” Teleseminar Date & Time: Saturday, April 27th at 9:00 AM Pacific To attend this event, click here 15 minutes before the event time: https://InstantTeleseminar.com/Events/114926646 If you don’t have access to the web, you can listen in by dialing (206) 402-0100, and using the following conference pin: 250369# Here is a list of international numbers: http://YourConferenceLine.com/Local/?eventid=114926646 This new program is designed to be of value to individuals, companies, organizations, government agencies…

Festival of Books was a great time!

We had an opportunity to let people know about an upcoming teleseminar introducing my new program. The teleseminar will be held on Saturday, April 27th at 9:00 am. I can’t wait to tell you about it. Sign up for the call on my website to receive a free copy of Survivor’s Guide and get the call details. I can’t wait to “see” you on the call. I believe in you! Susan

Meet me at the Festival of Books

I’m excited to be participating in the Los Angeles Times Festival of Books at USC this coming weekend.  I’ll be signing copies of my book, “Rainbows over Ruins,” for a portion of the day.  After that, I’m looking forward to meeting other authors in attendance.  I have a new program in development and hope to meet people who would be able to contribute to it. Maybe I’ll see you there.  The information is below: Los Angeles Times Festival of Books Saturday, APRIL 13 & Sunday, APRIL 14, 2019 UNIVERSITY OF SOUTHERN CALIFORNIA BOOK SIGNING EVENT Author Solutions Booth Number 223    11:30am – 12:30pm  Sunday, April 14 Location:  University of Southern California            University Park Campus            3535 S. Figueroa Street            Los Angeles, CA 90089 I will be signing copies of my book,  “Rainbows Over Ruins.”  

I Feel Your Pain

I realize it’s hard to think forward when you are in the midst of the pain and chaos that surrounds any type of disaster.  I know.  I have been there. Even as I send prayers and support to victims of fires, floods and shootings, I am also here to tell you that regardless of the circumstances in which you find yourself, you can get through this. Ever since a landslide destroyed our home, I have worked to help others learn how to get past such events.  It’s part of my work now to help empower you to survive,  rebuild and thrive through faith, belief and action so that you can continue to live the life you envision and contribute to the world in the way you choose. You may reach out for assistance at ssherayko@gmail.com.  To schedule a free consultation to help you start the recovery process, sign up at www.calendly.com/ssherayko/free-coaching-call. Let’s empower your recovery. I believe in you, Susan

6 Tips to Regain Your Inner Peace After a Negative Experience

With so many negative events in the news, I’d like to help you regain your inner peace when your thoughts and emotions are running wild and threaten to swamp you at times like these.  Energetically, I’d like to reach through cyberspace to find out what is going on for you.  Have you been affected by the devastating storm or the news coverage of recent events?  Or has a personal situation driven out thoughts of anything else? Pause for just a moment.  Consider your physical state.  Feel your body.  Feel the pressure of where chairs, sofas and floors touch your body.  Feel your breath moving through you.  Do you have any discomfort?  As you body to send such discomfort into a far corner of your mind.  Not to worry, you will return for it.  For now, realize that although you have a body, you are not just your body.  You are much more than your body. You also have emotions.  Notice the emotions that are affecting you right now.  There may be so many.  A time of crisis evokes a variety of strong, painful feelings.  Acknowledge fear, loss, anger, despair, hopelessness.  Acknowledge love, hope and gratitude if you feel them.  And…

What is the Key to Bounce Back from Adversity?

Getting out of the deep pit of adversity is a challenging journey through the gamut of human emotions.  If you successfully navigate the pathways, you bounce back from adversity.  But what is the key that enables you to bounce back and, not only that, move on to thrive in life? I’ve pondered this at length while writing this post.  I was sure that Faith and Belief were the key, but then word cloud research from my book “Rainbows Over Ruins” revealed that Action was the most used word within it.  Actions are certainly critical to progress, so which is it?  I found the answer in the old Shaker saying, “Pray and move your feet.”   As I write, I immediately think of other factors including being willing to make the journey when you are at your lowest. Certainly, we spring into action instinctually after a disaster or major setback.  However, we don’t think clearly.  Shock immobilizes us for a time, but as the shock wears off, we may be overwhelmed by strong, negative emotions.  Profound fear paralyzes us.  The confrontation with poverty brought on by serious setbacks brings on despair, hopelessness and apathy.  Needy in every way, lacking resources and energy,…

THE POWER TO THRIVE

Adversity follows a common trajectory.  In one way or another, we all have to get past the immediate trauma and devastation of the enormity of loss in our lives in order to go on living.  Ultimately, we get through the deep dive that accompanies great loss, and survive.  We move on and begin to stabilize our lives.  For me, this is when the most important recovery work of all begins because it involves learning to access the power to thrive.  It is also key to living a fulfilled life.  You will find value in the power to thrive long after disasters are far behind you. Developing the power to thrive requires both inner and outer work that we begin while we are in the survival stage.  Often, we need help to stop seeing ourselves as victims of a monumental tragedy.  We need help to see our way forward to something wonderful.  We start looking for that help while we are learning how to cope with the enormity of our crisis. Fortunately for me, I had returned to the faith of my childhood several years before the landslide.  I was actively involved in the life of the church, and when catastrophe…

SIGNS YOU ARE READY TO BOUNCE BACK FROM SETBACKS AND PREPARING TO THRIVE

Recovering from a major setback or adversity is not an overnight experience.  It is a process that unfolds in stages as you heal.  Sometimes you get stuck; sometimes you surge ahead; sometimes you fall back.  You may find it helpful to look at an overview of the journey you may encounter.  Such a big picture may give you helpful signs that you are ready to bounce back from setbacks.  In fact, it may also help you prepare to thrive. Dr. Randall Bell, founder of CoreIQ, is developing such an overview through his work with post-traumatic thrivers.  Dr. Bell has made his living helping communities evaluate and plan recovery from some of the world’s most devastating disasters.  Both economist and social scientist, he is the author of “Me-We-Do-Be” and several other titles.  He asked me to join him the other night to augment an earlier interview about our experience after the landslide.  The interview was structured around his new insights into the post-traumatic journey. The beginning point is, of course, the setback that transforms your life suddenly and unexpectedly.  Dr. Bell calls it a dive.  You can also call it your pit.  After the landslide, I often mentioned that my world…

HOW YOUR MIND GETS IN YOUR WAY AFTER A SETBACK

After a setback, when we attempt to make changes which may involve challenging our existing lifestyle and belief systems, the mind can get in our way  – specifically the subconscious mind.  The subconscious mind runs our automatic bodily systems in the background.  It’s our survival mechanism with a default negative position to stop any departure from the status quo.  But the subconscious (or non-conscious mind) also has another function that is often described as a search engine for problem solving.  When we develop our conscious relationship with this latter aspect of mind, we are engaged in what is known as our Inner Game. In earlier discussions, we’ve been examining our Outer Game using our outer conscious mind.  We are most familiar with the sensory features of the conscious mind: seeing, hearing, touching, tasting, and smelling.  We use those senses to take in the external world and all the opinions and beliefs of those around us.  We then set up conscious thoughts and beliefs of our own based on what we have learned from others.   This is what we use to deal with the outer tasks that need to be done to overcome the circumstances you encounter after a setback. To…

WHAT GETS IN YOUR WAY AFTER A SETBACK?

After a setback, you’ll want to eliminate whatever gets in your way to move forward again. As the short term benefits from the rush of adrenaline and the cushion of shock fade, the magnitude of what has happened to you and your family can be overwhelming. We barely have the strength to cope with the situation.

To help you, I’ve made a list a few things that can get in your way. If and when they crop up for you – and it can be immediate or years later – you’ll want to be prepared to acknowledge their existence and the positive changes you can make to get past them.

HOW DO WE PICK UP THE PIECES AFTER A DISASTER?

When a landslide destroyed our home several years ago, I had no idea how to pick up the pieces.  I learned.  The biggest lesson I took away from it is that we are not alone.  Everyone has significant setbacks in their lives.  How we handle them is what matters.  The good news is that we can turn things around. Our journey began when I discovered that a landslide had torn through our home.  At first, I was in full blown emergency, reactive mode.  This is where you think on your feet, checking to make sure everyone is okay, dealing with true emergencies, calling for help and getting to safety. I wasn’t functioning very well at that point.  I was running around trying to figure out what had happened and who to call for help.   In our case, friends from church helped me that first night.  One of the women took me to her house.  Church members gathered to sit with me.  We shared some snacks, had a cup of coffee, talked about what had happened, and finally put me on a sofa to get some sleep.  It’s important to get that time to decompress and take in what has happened….

HOW WELL WILL YOU REBOUND AFTER A DISASTER?

How prepared are you to rebound after a full blown natural disaster with catastrophic consequences? I wasn’t prepared when it happened to me.  I left for work on a rainy day and came home to find a landslide had gone through my house.  The fire department arrived and “red tagged” the house, indicating that the structure was condemned.  They allowed us to grab a few things. We rescued and slowly rebuilt our lives. Are you prepared for the tornado that rips through your home town?  Or the mudslide that sweeps away everything you own?  Or the fire, flood or earthquake that drives you from your home for days or even weeks?     Although these disasters are different, they have some things in common.  They are all encompassing –they affect you physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually.  They come fast, unexpectedly and you slip into survival mode. Each and every one of us will face major setbacks.  The question is not so much “if” it will happen, but how well you will handle it.  The good news is that you can train yourself to respond quickly in an emergency, on automatic pilot, and provide yourself a solid support structure to help you rebound…

Are You Struggling to Get Through a Disaster?

A few years back, we found ourselves in the same situation facing the reidents of Montecito, California right now.  We had a mudslide come through our home.  It was a mess.  We faced financial ruin, physical and emotional losses, fear (lots of fear) and the uncomfortable feeling of not knowing where to go for help. Fortunately we had a great church community  They were our rock during the worst of it.  Government help was not available.  Insurance money was not available.  As I said, it was a mess.  But we got through it. That’s really my message here.  You can do it too.  You can survive and, more than that, you can go on to thrive.  That may be so far from your mind.  It’s more likely that you are feeling overwhelmed with no vision of a future at all. But I repeat.  You can get past this disaster, regardless of the circumstances.  You can survive, rebuild, refocus and go on to thrive.  You can make choices to let go of anything that isn’t working in your life.  You can embrace what you loved and reincorporate it into the new lifestyle you create. I write about our journey back in…

Have You Lost Sight of the Dream in Your Heart?

Hello, I’m Susan Sherayko. Several years ago, I lost sight of the dream in my heart after a personal disaster, however, I rediscovered it thanks to the lessons I learned on the way back.  As someone who has personally followed this road map, I’m thrilled to invite you to an interactive program where you will learn to obtain an understanding of how to: Get what you want to do, be or have Identify what’s stopping you Know the tools to use if you feel stuck Develop the habits and routines that build momentum for maximum productivity Build systems that yield persistent progress You can check out the course at www.CourseCraft.net/courses/z9RSY. As someone who writes about how to identify and pursue one’s passion and purpose, it’s seems appropriate to let you know when I am taking new steps in pursuit of my own dreams. I’m so excited that my new course “Manifest Your Dreams: A Roadmap to Discover and Achieve Your Goals” is up and ready to launch. I’ve taken the ideas that I first wrote about in my book, Rainbows Over Ruins, and the Survivor’s Guide: 12 Tips to Gain Inner Peace and translated them into a course designed to…

To Live with Intention

Several weeks ago, I began speaking on my podcast about the parallels between the rebuilding process after a disaster and Abraham Maslow’s Pyramid of Needs. The visual provided a strong image for the journey back from negative life events, as well as the revision of my office vision board. The pyramid gave me a positive sense of direction as we move up the levels. When we begin at the base of the pyramid, we find ourselves in the emergency period of survival. Once we have addressed the most catastrophic elements, we are ready to provide more structure in our lives. This is accomplished by restoring or recreating new habits, the next level of the pyramid. The new structure helps us restore our will forces which get depleted by the constant demands placed upon them during a crisis. And surprisingly, we awaken one morning ready to think forward again. We turn a corner and find ourselves ready to live with Intention. Intention is the coming together of an idea (vision), strong feelings (desire) and the will to act. All three components must be present or the idea remains little more than wishful thinking. We need to know why we want something…

The Joys of a Summer Break

Summer break is a wonderful time to do things that are a little more fun than serious — and since I haven’t had a long break in a couple years, I made the most of it over the past few weeks. First, I inundated myself with soccer matches.  No, I do not play, but my grandson does.  I went up to Seattle to visit and watch an entire week of conference games, rounding it off with tickets to the Sounders game.  The entire family loves soccer and I was more than ready to get into the spirit of things. Next, I decided to practice the art of doing nothing.  For me, that equates to meditating and sitting for ideas with no lists and no plans.  Then I hunkered down with the 5th novel in the Game of Thrones series and finished it!  During the season, it can take me months to finish pleasure reading so this was a marvelous indulgence. One of the fun things about the novels (and the shows) is the genealogy of all the characters.  I’m just geeky enough to have written that out for the show when I first discovered it.  So I carried my enjoyment…

Playing with a Dynamic Vision Board

Not too long ago, as you may remember, I had the good fortune to meet Bill Ganz, author “Belonging Networks,” and marketing consultant. We had a great visit in my office where he observed the vision board that dominates my space. He made one comment that really resonated with me. In fact, I wrote about it at the time. “I see your process, but suggest that you turn it around and show your clients’ experience when they go through you content.” What he was seeing was a milestone map of all the steps that I needed to do in order to achieve my goals. What he was not seeing was my relationship to my clients or the value that my work was providing them. Then and there, I decided to change the focus of the board to show that value. Value is an important marketing concept. When presented in business courses, it is usually mentioned as part of the discussion about knowing your target market or niche audience. We are asked to describe who and what people make up that special group we want to attract, their demographics and psychographics. I’ve gone through these exercises myself, and frankly, they did…

Thoughts on Manifesting a Vision

What an intense few weeks we’ve had. We were holding a wedding – a real wedding – on the show and expectations were high. It not only had to be a beautiful and memorable evening for the couple, but all their guests who had traveled great distances to attend as well. It also had to be equally beautiful as it translated through the cameras to the audiences who would be watching.   For those last few weeks until it was seen by all our viewers, all thoughts of my vision of my own creative projects were burned out of my mind. I had to focus on a single mission. So with the wedding behind me, I am regrouping. As I refocus on my own dreams, I’m pondering the process that enables us to manifest what we desire. If you have a project you want to manifest, you may want to pull out your own notebook and go through this exercise with me. It’s a good one. I start my day meditating, praying, writing in my journal and/or visualizing where I have been and where I want to go next. This is designed to engage the subconscious mind.   If you are more…

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